5th house is normally seen for Children, Education, Love, Creativity & Media but it is also house of Counselling. Planets in 5th house and 5th house lord position/dignity shows how receptive someone can be towards advices given. It becomes most important in matters of relationship when partner is trying to advice or counsel the person but if 5th house has malefic planets impact or 5th lord dignity is not good then the person may not be able to appreciate the advice given.
Jupiter and Moon also play important role in person's receptivity towards advice as Jupiter is guidance itself and Moon is mind. Their dignity will also decide if person will receive advice positively or not.
Many Astrologers start their consultation by looking at client's 5th house to know if person will receive the advice or not. So that they should invest their time with person accordingly. There is no point in talking with someone for 2 hours who is not even listening. You can't guide someone who doesn't want to be guided.
Post on 23rd Aug, 2018
So, time and again I have said that there is no chart ideal or perfect for relationship/marriage. Every chart has many issues. Some minor issues and some horrible issues. So, today let's look at certain things astrologically which can tell that a person can be good in handling relations.
1. Our eyes automatically go to 7th house when we talk about marriage/relationship stuff and I agree that it is important but what leads to problems in marriage is not the 7th house but 6th house and 12th house.
2. Understand that planets in 7th house indicate as to what circumstances can impact relationship. Like, Saturn in 7th house shows that marriage can be average one if person delays the marriage, both partners are matured enough to handle the realistic nature of Saturn or they maintain a long distance relationship. Like, I have 2 clients who are married with their respective spouses for about 20 years now and they stay separately in other states (without any conflict between them) and meet once in 2-3 months. They are doing it for 20+ years now, So, this is what is realistic way of dealing with relationship from both sides as they realized the nature of relationship they can have under these circumstances. So, 7th house may not create problems in marriage if both partners are ready to work as per the planets involved in 7th house.
3. But my eyes go directly to 6th house and 12th house. 6th house is house of conflicts, disputes and eventual divorce/break-up/separation. 12th house is 6th from 7th house. So, 12th house also indicates conflicts, disputes and eventual divorce/break-up/separation from spouse/partner. Somehow, I am not concerned about the date of marriage but I am more concerned as to what will happen after honeymoon period is over in marriage?
4. Ideally, there should not be any planet in 6th house and 12th house if you are looking for even an average relationship. If at all there are planets then they should be benefic planets in good dignity. Like, one of my friend has Jupiter-Mercury-Venus in 6th house/Sagittarius. So, this Saraswati Yoga in 6th house protects person from conflicts. Same rule for 12th house. If at all there is any planet in 12th house, it should be benefic planet in good dignity.
5. The real issue comes when 2-3 malefic planets are in 6th house or 12th house and they are also in wrong dignity. Here, relationship can be impacted by continuous conflicts.
6. Next thing you should see is position and dignity (both) of Moon, Venus and Jupiter. They are the planets of relationship and show our ability to be flexible with others or adjust with others. Moon is mind, Venus is relationship and Jupiter is karaka of family life as it represents marriage, children and husband for a girl. Now, these planets should be in houses related with relation & family life AND they should also be in good dignity. Like, let's say Moon is in 2nd house, 7th house or 11th house but if it is debilitated or hemmed by malefic planets then it is of no use. So, Moon-Venus-Jupiter must be in relationship oriented houses and must be in good dignity. It will show that person can make compromises for family life.
7. 7th house lord should not be debilitated or with malefics. It should be in friendly or exalted signs.
8. If all these things are there then we can hope that person will have maturity to handle the relationship. Dashas and transits will still activate your 6th house and 12th house, but person will have stable mind to deal with such situations.
9. 8th house is also a Dushthana House but it is 2nd from 7th house. So, it also shows benefits of marriage. But still, as it is Dushthana house which can cause sudden events and accidents, same rules apply for 8th house too that ideally it should be empty or there should be benefic planets in good dignity.
10. Last but not the least, 2 gospel truths of Astrology.
A. If you haven't crossed Saturn's age of 35 and Saturn is impacting your relationship houses/planets "ANY HOW" or you are under Saturn dasha then you have no other option but to wait till 35 years of age. Any relationship before that can be troublesome despite good positions of Moon, Venus, Jupiter, 6th house, 8th house and 12th house.
B. Unless your dashas are supporting relationship, it may not work. Person may have excellent Moon-Venus-Jupiter position but his dasha is of Saturn or Rahu in 6th house then avoid relationship till a better dasha comes up.
Again, at least one among partners should have a good chart for marriage. I don't think it is possible to get two persons in relationship with all good qualities in their chart. So, whoever has a better chart should take more responsibility to sustain the relationship and the other person should come in supportive role. Other person should realize that marriage is sustaining only because of partner. So, he/she is just supposed to co-operate with the other partner. Likewise, one with better dasha should have higher say in relationship. If dasha changes, then roles can be changed. Like, if girl is under Jupiter dasha and Jupiter is exalted whereas the guy is under Rahu dasha and Rahu is in 6th house, then guy should let girl lead the marriage and family life & decisions. Once dasha changes for girl & guy both, they can change their roles according to dasha planets and dignity of planets.
Like this, even if someone has a very bad horoscope for marriage but he can still sustain the marriage due to support of partner's chart or dasha but for that he has to let go of his ego in marriage. Anyways, relationship and ego can't be together.
Again, there can be some other tips too which I will post in future.
Post on 24th Aug, 2018
This post can be termed as sequel to my post on relationship yesterday.
Normally people have complains to me that I only tell the problems in chart but no remedy or gemstone. I have clarified my views on remedy/gemstones much earlier - https://www.astrosaxena.com/remexp and I stand on those grounds still.
Still, today I try to tell the best remedy or gemstone which can resolve all your problems. So, let me know how many people can afford to perform that remedy or wear that gemstone after reading this post.
Again, it is in matters of relationship only because in Career matters, if you put efforts continuously then sooner or later you will get some good results. Like, I think I have the most trashed 10th house in my chart with Rahu-Saturn in Leo, Mars 8th aspect on 10th house and 10th lord sitting 6 houses away in 3rd house. Still, I managed to have a Career for myself.
But it becomes difficult in relationship because duality gets involved. Wherever 2 people are involved, there will be friction or conflict. It is the basic nature or result of duality. Normally, we focus on husband-wife or boy friend-girl friend relation but take any relation in your life and you will find some friction in it at some point of time. Like, I know about myself that I always had differences of opinion with almost everyone in my family and friends. I am almost an out-caste as I talk with selected few people only out of my own will. For others, I only respond.
So, all relations are difficult but love/romantic relations look more difficult after a certain time as we can see a way-out of it. Because we can't take divorce from parents or siblings, we try to find ways to make it work. But in marriage/relation, as soon as the conflict arises, an option of divorce/break-up automatically comes in mind. It is none's fault. Because option is there, it is bound to come in mind. Now, coming back to our best remedy/gemstone.
As marriage remains a social institution, we have to look at how marriages used to last long up to the year 2000. One of my friend's parents recently celebrated 40 years of marriage and my own maternal grandparents had a 55 years long marriage. So, what was the key then which we are missing now? That key is your best remedy or gemstone.
Of course, those people would also have had all the malefic planets impacting relationship houses/planets, paap kartari yoga, mangalik-non-mangalik issue, Saturn impacting everywhere in chart. Then how come they survived all these impacts of malefic planets? We can't say that Saturn is only jealous towards people got married after 2000. So except 1 or 2 cases of widowhood, we rarely heard any case of divorce in those days. And widowhood is also something which is not dependent on marriage. If a person is supposed to die then he will die, no matter he is married or not. It is extreme foolishness which we hear that because of getting married to this/that person, he/she died.
Anyways, here we come back to the main point which I raise again and again. Till 2000, one party to the marriage remained subservient to another and in 99.99% of cases, it was woman who remained subservient to man. When one party is not even allowed to raise her voice in marriage then where is the question of any dispute or conflicts. And to imagine about filing divorce was a big joke in those times.
Now in changed times in 21st century, we can't expect that subservient attitude from woman. When they have got education and career like Man, they have equal right in relationship. Now for the 1st time in societies like India, relationship is between equals and this is where the problem is coming. Man ego is unable to give woman the equal right or equal say in marriage. And actually, they should have higher say now because let's face it, Man is beneficiary here. Woman is leaving her family and changing her whole identity for Man. So, it is obvious that she should get her due place. I know that many of my female ex-colleagues used to take care of home & career responsibilities both. So, under these circumstances, they must get a higher place in relationship than man as they are looking after both responsibilities simultaneously. This is something I discussed here - https://www.astrosaxena.com/marriageissues.
Now, as we can't expect woman to be subservient to man, the only way to save institution of marriage (which is rapidly falling) is by Man appreciating the contribution of Woman in family. I understand that it will be too much for Man's ego to become subservient to Woman but even if they are appreciative of the contribution of Woman in Family then lots of issues will be resolved. As Woman has become more masculine in changing times due to the responsibilities they undertake, it is for Man to adopt certain feminine qualities within himself. Something which I discussed here - https://www.astrosaxena.com/relations2 . Now, we can't expect any side to be dominating or subservient to another. Now, we are entering in times where relationship has to be a balanced one (Libra).
So, your only remedy or gemstone is awareness or mindfulness. Be aware and mindful of the changing social dynamics. Be aware and mindful every moment as to what your spouse is bringing into marriage. Normally, once people get married or get into relationship, they start taking their partner for granted. Be aware and mindful that none would like such neglect and if they leave you then you will be at zero again. So, this is the only remedy or gemstone I know. Be aware and mindful 24x7.
Before expressing your anger or frustration, get aware that your anger can finish your marriage. Be aware that all your religions, which you are so proud of, are dead against Anger. They treat anger like a poison. Your anger, frustration, disputes and conflicts only end up in destroying your own life. Be aware of what you are doing 24x7 and you will be avoiding many unpleasant circumstances.
All these posts on Relationship are also result of my own awareness and retrospection during this retrograde season and Venus difficult transit through Cancer to Virgo where I talked more with myself as and when I got angry rather than projecting anger on others. That made me to go deeper and deeper in understanding my own mistakes and drawbacks. Carl Jung said that everything that irritates you about others, can lead to an understanding about self. So, if your partner is able to irritate you then ask yourself where did it get hurt within you? Mistake is within you that's why someone could disturb you. So perform this remedy and wear this gem of Awareness and Mindfulness 24x7 and you will be fine -https://www.astrosaxena.com/mind.
Coming back to normal remedy or gemstones - Do you really feel that you wearing a gem can change behavior of your spouse? I mean, seriously? Or you just want to hope against hope? I tell you why people are fond of these remedies and gemstones?
Because it is easy to spend money once in some worship or in wearing gemstone rather than being aware of your own mistakes and improving yourself. What I am giving you is 24x7 remedy. You have to perform it every moment. Who cares dude? It is easier to wear a gem and blame the other person.
Unless the whole humanity changes its way of thinking and mindset through meditation, no other remedy can help you. So, this is the only remedy I know which can resolve all your problems. Be Meditative, Be Aware, Be Mindful. Let me know how many can afford it?
Rest all is business. Thanks,
One final tip on relationship before Venus hits the exact deep debilitation degree of 27 degree Virgo on Wednesday, the 29th Aug.
7th house is other people, masses and people you come across in your daily life.
7th house is also your relationship or partner because your partner is also one among the masses who comes into your life.
So, the way you treat other people or masses in your daily life is exactly the way you treat your partner.
If someone is not respectful of people he meets on street, no matter who that person is (from a millionaire to a beggar or an auto rickshaw driver), and doesn't behave courteously then it is highly improbable that this person will treat his/her spouse in a dignified way.
It also includes social media these days. If person is enjoying trolling, speaking rubbish against others and not willing to give respect to other people views then it may be very tough for such person to respect views of spouse. Many people just want to put across their opinion and not willing to listen to other's response then it may be tough for person to listen to the views of partner.
That's why they say that person's 1st relationship is always with himself and if someone is not honest while dealing with himself then just get rid of the thought that he/she will be honest while dealing with others.
Post on 28th Aug,
So, there was a request to write a post about Rahu MD.
As I am planning to have next FB Live Sessions on Dashas, it is apt that I cover them through post also. Let's begin with some basic information on Rahu MD.
Every planet during its dasha, 1st of all gives the results of things it is karaka of. Rahu is karaka of illusion, confusion, fame, material wealth, obsession, creativity etc. So 1st of all, person will get these results.
Then Rahu/Ketu give results based on the sign they are in, position of sign lord and planets they are conjunct with. So, with them, it can't be a short-cut formula that Rahu is in Taurus, so it is exalted. Hence, it is really good because Taurus lord Venus can be debilitated and it can turn everything upside-down.
Likewise, Rahu is known to explode the results of the planets it is sitting with. Now, if Rahu is with Saturn then it can explode misery, delay or hardship in person's life or if Rahu is with Moon, then it can explode emotions of person. Again, no short-cut formula.
Rahu's position represents the things we need to achieve in this life. The position of Rahu's sign lord gives an indication of how it may be achieved. Like, Rahu is in Cancer in 10th house shows fame through work of taking care of others. Now, Moon's position will show in which area of life we need to take care of others.
As Rahu is naturally malefic planet, there will be some malefic impact of Rahu on person's life during its dasha. The most common impact is some illusion, confusion or cheating in that area of life where Rahu is sitting in chart. It is more true when Rahu MD occurs in early life when Rahu is not matured. As Rahu matures at 42 years, its dasha can have better impact after 42 years of age.
So, as we can see that it is not straight forward to interpret Rahu MD. Lots of things get involved like Rahu's sign/house positions, planets it is conjunct with, sign lord position,the house it co-rules with Aquarius sign and the nakshatra it is in plus the planets in Rahu's nakshatra. If Rahu is lord of Ascendant Nakshatra then also it makes a difference.
So, this is a generic introduction of Rahu MD. More discussion to follow during FB Live sessions.
PS - Mars turned direct today. Venus is about to touch the deepest debilitation sign in Virgo. I have heard few break-up news in this month.
As one of my friend rightly said, relationship is a continuous work-in-progress. You can never think that your relationship is now stable and you can relax in that area of life. Everyday you have to treat that today you have met your spouse/partner for the 1st time and you have to work on your relationship all over again.
Post on 30th Aug, 2018
If Libra Ascendant chart is totally upside down then Aries ascendant chart is totally aligned with the original chart, or as they say the chart of Kaalpurush.
For Aries people, 1st house has Aries sign which is natural house of Aries only. 2nd house has Taurus sign which is natural house of Taurus only and so on for every house and sign. So in this case, the energy of house and sign are getting aligned with each other. This can also mean that there is double energy of similar kind in every house. So, they are more intense than any other sign. At the same time, if energies are getting aligned then it doesn't mean that everything is well aligned in their lives. Aligned here only means that they approach the things related with the house with the similar sort of energy represented by house. Like, 4th house is Home, Mother & Emotions and sign falling there is Cancer, so they can be extra emotional or caring towards home or mother. 7th house is relationship and sign falling there is also Libra, a sign of relation. So, they can be intensely looking for relationship but at the same time, they may like to have a very balanced relationship as being Aries ascendant, it may be tough for them to accommodate or adjust after a certain limit.
Another way of interpreting an ascendant chart is by looking at what 2 houses a planet rules as it connects the energies of those two houses.
Like for Aries ascendant people,
Mars rules 1st house/Aries and 8th house/Scorpio. So, it connects their life path with instabilities and changes.
Venus rules 2nd house/Taurus and 7th house/Libra. So, it links their wealth with other people/masses and business.
Mercury rules their 3rd house/Gemini and 6th house/Virgo. So, it links their efforts with resolving obstacles of others.
Jupiter rules 9th house/Sagittarius and 12th house/Pisces. It links their higher education, religious/spiritual pursuits with travelling to far distant lands.
Saturn rules 10th house/Capricorn and 11th house/Aquarius. It shows that they grow in career and income very slowly and with considerable delay and hard work.
Again, it is only the foundation of their chart without considering planets, dignity, dasha and transit. So, there is much more to look for.
Post on 30th Aug, 2018
Venus is about to transit into Libra in an hour time. Venus will stay there till 31st Dec, 2018. Venus is relationship and Libra is relationship, so it can be considered good time for relationship but Libra is also sign of Balance and Venus will also be retrograde in Libra during this time. As retrograde is all about reflecting back, people can reflect back at their relationship and ask themselves if they are in a balanced relationship or not. Retrograde Venus is a time of break-ups and separation generally. So, be careful about your relationship matters as things are not as nice as they look from outside.
Also, Venus will be with Jupiter till mid-october when Jupiter finds its new home for next 13 months in Scorpio. So for next 45 days, Jupiter-Venus both will be in Libra. Both Teachers in sign of Relationship are there to give us some lessons on relationship.
Financially and Creativity wise it can be a good time but relationship matters can see issues. Again, projecting your anger, disappointment and frustration, due to your own past issues, on your partner may not help you. It is again time to go within and ask yourself questions which you are projecting on others. Like I give you an example. These days possessiveness/controlling nature is one of the main reason behind break-ups. Partners are too possessive or controlling to each other up to an extent where they don't give breathing space to other person. It is said these days that possessiveness is nothing but love or concern towards partner. LOL . Really?
Love gives Freedom, not possessiveness. There is a difference between showing concern and keeping someone under house arrest. I mean why it is an issue that your spouse is talking to someone over call or going to meet his/her friend somewhere? Why people want their partner to report them about every moment, wherever they are? Is it love? Or is it imprisonment?
Now, go within and ask yourself these questions. And you will realize that basically you are an insecured person and suffering from inferiority complex. Deep down you know that your partner can get a better spouse/partner than you, so you are feeling insecured. What will happen to me if that happens? Hence, let me put all the rules, regulations to control his/her every movement, keep them inside a cage and call it my extra love or care towards them. This is only one example.
All our problems are within ourselves but we project those issues on others as if they are the cause behind our problems. This Retrograde Venus in Libra is an opportunity to go retro within ourselves and find/resolve our issues there only rather than throwing at others.
Have a happy Venus time.
Vishal S Saxena - Astrologer