So, time and again
I have said that there is no chart ideal or perfect for relationship/marriage.
Every chart has many issues. Some minor issues and some horrible issues. So,
today let's look at certain things astrologically which can tell that a person
can be good in handling relations.
1. Our eyes automatically go to 7th
house when we talk about marriage/relationship stuff and I agree that it is
important but what leads to problems in marriage is not the 7th house but 6th
house and 12th house.
2. Understand that planets in 7th
house indicate as to what circumstances can impact relationship. Like, Saturn
in 7th house shows that marriage can be average one if person delays the
marriage, both partners are matured enough to handle the realistic nature of
Saturn or they maintain a long distance relationship. Like, I have 2 clients
who are married with their respective spouses for about 20 years now and they
stay separately in other states (without any conflict between them) and meet
once in 2-3 months. They are doing it for 20+ years now, So, this is what is
realistic way of dealing with relationship from both sides as they realized the
nature of relationship they can have under these circumstances. So, 7th house
may not create problems in marriage if both partners are ready to work as per
the planets involved in 7th house.
3. But my eyes go directly to 6th
house and 12th house. 6th house is house of conflicts, disputes and eventual
divorce/break-up/separation. 12th house is 6th from 7th house. So, 12th house
also indicates conflicts, disputes and eventual divorce/break-up/separation
from spouse/partner. Somehow, I am not concerned about the date of marriage but
I am more concerned as to what will happen after honeymoon period is over in
marriage?
4. Ideally, there should not be any
planet in 6th house and 12th house if you are looking for even an average
relationship. If at all there are planets then they should be benefic planets
in good dignity. Like, one of my friend has Jupiter-Mercury-Venus in 6th
house/Sagittarius. So, this Saraswati Yoga in 6th house protects person from
conflicts. Same rule for 12th house. If at all there is any planet in 12th
house, it should be benefic planet in good dignity.
5. The real issue comes when 2-3
malefic planets are in 6th house or 12th house and they are also in wrong
dignity. Here, relationship can be impacted by continuous conflicts.
6. Next thing you should see is
position and dignity (both) of Moon, Venus and Jupiter. They are the planets of
relationship and show our ability to be flexible with others or adjust with
others. Moon is mind, Venus is relationship and Jupiter is karaka of family
life as it represents marriage, children and husband for a girl. Now, these
planets should be in houses related with relation & family life AND they
should also be in good dignity. Like, let's say Moon is in 2nd house, 7th house
or 11th house but if it is debilitated or hemmed by malefic planets then it is
of no use. So, Moon-Venus-Jupiter must be in relationship oriented houses and
must be in good dignity. It will show that person can make compromises for
family life.
7. 7th house lord should not be
debilitated or with malefics. It should be in friendly or exalted signs.
8. If all these things are there then
we can hope that person will have maturity to handle the relationship. Dashas
and transits will still activate your 6th house and 12th house, but person will
have stable mind to deal with such situations.
9. 8th house is also a Dushthana
House but it is 2nd from 7th house. So, it also shows benefits of marriage. But
still, as it is Dushthana house which can cause sudden events and accidents,
same rules apply for 8th house too that ideally it should be empty or there should
be benefic planets in good dignity.
10. Last but not the least, 2 gospel
truths of Astrology.
A. If you haven't crossed Saturn's
age of 35 and Saturn is impacting your relationship houses/planets "ANY
HOW" or you are under Saturn dasha then you have no other option but to
wait till 35 years of age. Any relationship before that can be troublesome
despite good positions of Moon, Venus, Jupiter, 6th house, 8th house and 12th
house.
B. Unless your dashas are supporting
relationship, it may not work. Person may have excellent Moon-Venus-Jupiter
position but his dasha is of Saturn or Rahu in 6th house then avoid
relationship till a better dasha comes up.
Again, at least one among partners
should have a good chart for marriage. I don't think it is possible to get two
persons in relationship with all good qualities in their chart. So, whoever has
a better chart should take more responsibility to sustain the relationship and
the other person should come in supportive role. Other person should realize
that marriage is sustaining only because of partner. So, he/she is just
supposed to co-operate with the other partner. Likewise, one with better dasha
should have higher say in relationship. If dasha changes, then roles can be
changed. Like, if girl is under Jupiter dasha and Jupiter is exalted whereas
the guy is under Rahu dasha and Rahu is in 6th house, then guy should let girl
lead the marriage and family life & decisions. Once dasha changes for girl
& guy both, they can change their roles according to dasha planets and
dignity of planets.
Like this, even if someone has a very
bad horoscope for marriage but he can still sustain the marriage due to support
of partner's chart or dasha but for that he has to let go of his ego in
marriage. Anyways, relationship and ego can't be together.
Again, there can be some other tips
too which I will post in future.
Thanks,
SPB